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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]But, many , many, many men do suck - in all corners of women’s lives - male colleagues, bosses, peers, relatives members of the public. [/b]It deeply affects the quality and trajectory of our lives.  If you can’t recognize that and instead feel threatened by it, think your wife should just keep quiet about it, or if you feel obligated to stick up for sucky men just because they are your male brethren, then, TBH, there is something wrong with you and you should do some serious self-reflection.

And if you’re about to respond - but I don’t suck and I’m a man so why should I tolerate being lumped in with all the men?  Well, that means you do not even begin to recognize the immense male privilege you have benefitted from every second of your life since you were born. [/quote]

I am a woman, a very liberal woman for that matter. But I too don't like this idea that just because some men suck we are allowed to disparage all men. I also think its very unhealthy as a habit that women share with one another to make sweeping generalizations about male spouses (god no man can empty the dishwasher!) that contributes to great household gender inequality. No one should generalize about anyone. If you replaced men with basically anything else (women, trans people, lesbian, black people, chinese people, muslims) it would be universally abhorred. It doesn't feel good to be talked about like a statistic. [/quote]

A) your analysis of what’s appropriate and what’s not needs some refining. You cannot just do a hypothetical and turn the tables to see if something is okay. It’s completely different for a white person to say they hate black people than it is for a black person to say they hate white people. The implications of white hatred toward Black people are violent and oppressive. For a black person to say he hates white people…that’s just kind of understandable.

B) PP didnt disparage all men! She qualified that’s she’s talking about many men, not all. But even the phrase “all men suck” is typically just a figure of speech. It’s hyperbole. It’s a way of saying “everywhere I turn I see a guy being a jerk!” It doesn’t need to be picked apart and taken literally. [/quote]

It is different but it doesn't mean one is good and one is bad. Both are bad, gradients of bad but bad nonetheless.

I totally disagree with B, when you're talking to someone and tell them that some aspect of who they are 'sucks' then you're being a jerk full stop. [/quote]

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