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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]dcum = Depressing Critical Undermining Mothers....

it's great that women are a major force in the workplace, and its great that some women can afford to choose to stay home with their kids. no one choice is right for all families...however, if you want to stay home but can't afford it because you're husband doesn't make "enough" either you're just part of the vast majority of people in the world who aren't wealthy (welcome to reality outside DCUM!), or you are not creative enough/determined enough to cut back enough to make it on one salary (I know I'm not, which is one of the many reasons why I work).  and that's why this is not really an argument about feminism as much as it is about economics....

However, one reason why this is NOT the 50s is that the expectation that one salary (whether a man or a woman's) is enough to provide for a middle class existence is no longer valid for most of us. While the top 1 percent have gotten fabulously rich in the past 30 years, real wages and standard of living has stayed flat or dropped for most workers, while the relative cost of education, childcare, and other stuff has gone way up. One mid range salary used to cut it, now it doesn't. A rising tide in this case has lifted a few boats really really high, but the rest of the boats have started to sink....
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Our boat has lifted up to the 1% but I haven't decided to bail....I think some of these people not using their degrees could be there but they don't feel like working even though their kids are in school full day.

I am not talking about the American middle class and it's disappearance. I am solely talking about the DCUM 'poor=me' population.  They want it all, but don't want to work. They ask ?s about how those of us can live in certain homes and don't believe we did it with no prior home sales or assistance from relatives.  They sit and bemoan their fate...why oh why can't I marry rich.  The funny thing is--unlike op DH does make enough for me to sah...but I don't.  I chose the flex., creative wah route to stay relevant long after my kids are in school.  This has made our boat rise even farther.[/quote]

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