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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was an RA in college. Room changes can be authorized all year - your DC hasn’t made enough of a stink. If he/she has someone who wants to swap, it’s easier. You can also call, but make sure you don’t call the dorm, call the actual housing dept so they can see that your kid has authorized you to call on their behalf. [/quote]

I agree with this. OP, your quiet DC probably hasn’t really advocated for herself here and is unloading on you. I don’t think it’s uncommon for kids to call home with complaints. You have to push them to go back to housing and be assertive.

This is a teachable moment. Don’t swoop in and fix this YET. [/quote]

I agree in general, but some kids are more mature than others. If your child can't handle it, yes, Mom, you do need to help. But hands off as much as possible. Make suggestions, and see if your kid can implement then. It's hard at this age. They want to fit in, and college is such a huge change for them. (I assume your child is a freshman?).

I've found that b[b]eing persistent is usually effective with housing, even at large schools[/b]. They don't want trouble, and if you're nice but persistent, then will back down and be accommodating. I have experience with expensive, elite private colleges and huge public colleges. The housing office is generally difficult to deal with, but if pressed, they will make an appropriate change.

[b]And teaching your child how to escalate is a good life lesson. If the housing office won't cooperate, ask for a supervisor. [/b]I showed my kid how to do this when she needed a carpet-less room. It took some doing, but voila, a carpet-less room was found! It required the intervention of a supervisor, though. [/quote]

Characterize it as a "health and safety issue," because that is what it is.  Escalate and repeat as necessary.

They DO have extra rooms and your kid CAN get into one, you just need to push and insist.[/quote]

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