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Would you be upset if I told my child that that is not really the case? That is back to the zygote thing. BTW, I am open minded enough that my kids at three knew what a zygote was, complete with microscope images. They know all about the human genome and more than most of their friends, so they already know that two women can not have a child. To me it is like calling your father's second wife a mother, just not factual.[/quote]

NP here.  Tell me, why is a legal, step or adoptive mother any less a mother?  Yes, a child cannot have 2 biological mothers, but there is a lot more to having a child than just bearing the child.  If you are stuck on only defining motherhood based on biological mothers, then you have a very limited perspective.  That attitude is very offensive to a lot of parents out there who have spent years raising their families.  You're welcome to your opinion and what you tell your own child, but don't be surprised when you offend many parents and hear some not so kind retorts. [/quote]

No, it is not that. My kindergartener was arguing with me that two women could have a baby. She knew about egg and sperm, so she thught that I missed something when I did not tell her about egg and egg. I told her the truth, two women do not have a baby. They might refer to the women as mothers, but each child has one mather and one father at conception, and for life wrt DNA. Why confuse them?[/quote]

Then I think OP's answer was quite good.

[i]"A: Yes, I would because my child *does* have two mothers. If they pressed for biology I would tell them that we went to a special doctor to get help, and that our family is possible due to the kindness of a man who donated the sperm that helped create Bobby and Billy."[/i]
  
That explains the biology, but make sure that you explain that both mothers are the parents or mothers of the children.  These mothers deserve the same respect and acknowledgement as a full time step-mother, adoptive mother, or legal mother (a child conceived by donor egg, but where the mother is still listed on the birth certificate as the mother at birth).  While you feel that you are only being honest to the children and trying not to confuse them, do you really want to teach your child something as offensive as "Betty is really not Johnny's mother, Alice is."?  While you teach your child the biology, also teach your child respect.  That will serve her just as much in the long run.[/quote]

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