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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can't figure out what the common denominator is. My mom is Polish and she always makes sure there is way too much food when she has guests. Her sister is obviously from the same family and people starve at her house (wasp husband though). My aunt is Mexican and she will invite people over for burgers and have literally nothing else. Dozens of burgers but no side dishes, drinks or dessert. We know now to bring our own but it was never spelled out. [/quote]

I kind of wonder if it stems from trying to host outside of your traditional group.  Your polish aunt with the wasp husband probably had a lot of WASP friends.  So she likely had to host parties that were very unlike the food at the celebrations she grew up with, and she probably didn’t have a lot of direction from her husband.  Internet forums didn’t exist.  Maybe that created a lot of anxiety over what to serve when she hosted.  
As she got older, hosting seemed more and more like a PITA, so she stopped doing it.  But she still hangs on to that feeling of shame whenever people don’t eat her food or bring their own food.  Not wanting to serve food + shame and anger when people bring their own food = hungry guests.  [/quote]

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