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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are you assigning malicious intent to a 14 year old? Maybe she was genuinely surprised. It’s not like 14 years old don’t ever say dumb things.

Why couldn’t you say “yeah he does. It’s not that unusual for his age?”

And leave it at that? She probably would have just said “oh really? I didn’t know that?”

You’re scared to talk to a teenager? What kind of life do you live? Jesus. [/quote]

I don’t think OP is “assigning malicious intent.” She is concerned the girl’s comments might have had a negative impact. I also think there are some tricky dynamics here where she was expecting the other parent to say something (“Leave him alone Larla, it’s not a big deal”) and they didn’t, and OP maybe felt awkward saying something instead. Some people really don’t like it if you correct or scold their kid. Also OP suspects the parent might agree (a reasonable suspicion given all the comments on this thread from people who seem to think it’s scandalous that the boy was in a diaper, or that OP allowed others to see it).

And that’s the real issue. It’s not that OP is assuming this teenager is a terrible person, it’s that her words were not appropriate, the other parents didn’t weigh in, and OP is worried this reflects judgment on their part. It’s not really about the teenagers behavior it’s about the relationship between the families.[/quote]

OP characterized the comments as "cruel" and "mean-spirited."  That's unquestionably assigning malicious intent.  Add to that her breathless characterization of the conversation, and the fact that she thinks this is a VERY BIG DEAL . . . [/quote]

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