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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They want a housekeeper that they can have sex with on demand.[/quote]

Really? You’re telling me a wealthy doctor needs to marry a poor foreign woman to afford house cleaning??? Doesn’t sound like someone even remotely well off…[/quote]

Omg no. 
Many women in eastern europe are raised with the clear understanding that the man is superior. And everything they do is catering to him and with a haply attitude. Not like a paid housekeeper. But making all his favorite foods, cleaning daily, ironing clothes, hot breakfast on table, greeting with a smile and hair done and dinner ready when he is home. Never asking for any household help. Seriously. Im russian but not raised like that. My cousins were shocked that my husband washed dishes and changes diapers. It didn't occur to them to even see if their husbands would do any of that. [/quote]

And what's wrong with this?  If the man is able to provide a strong home, family, money, future financial stability, comfortable retirement...that's the deal right?  That is what SHE GETS for doing HER JOB because HE IS DOING HIS JOB.  What is wrong with that?

The issue you have is women in other countries have different priorities than you.  Since they are different it's wrong.  In their eyes you are wrong.  In reality neither are wrong. [/quote]

What’s wrong with that… hmm where to start.

1) You’re only qualified for a job as a domestic worker so your outside options are limited.
2) If outside options are limited, you’ll settle for a guy because he has money and not because you love him OR you’ll settle in general because you can’t imagine trying to get someone else or make your own way in the world past a certain age.
3) It will make it very hard to leave even if there is abuse, adultery, addiction, or lack of love, because you’re financially dependent.
4) Your sense of self comes from pleasing and taking care of someone else, not from your own innate abilities and talents. This hurts your self esteem in the long run.
5) Whoever controls the money has more control over a very important resource in the relationship, and this affects the power dynamic.
6) I could go on but basically if you were a woman you would have seen up close in your mother, your aunts, your grandmother, your cousins that this is a sh*t deal for women that rarely goes in their favor.

Patriarchy 101. You’re welcome! [/quote]

This is a great summary…which should send a chill down the spine of many suburban moms on DCUM.

They are called “ desperate” housewives for a reason.[/quote]

It’s not a judgment on women who choose this as the least worst option. For many women around the world, it is. But in every country where women have access to economic and educational activities, the marriage and birth rate drops. That fact should tell you something.[/quote]

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