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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Posters are enormously defensive about their child’s popular name which is understandable.  No one wants to think their kids name rolls people’s eyes!  Or that they just followed the naming trends without thought.

And people who hate overused or popular names really hate them.

It’s always going to be like this.  [/quote]

I mean, I fully blame the "ugh popular names are WRONG" people on this one. My kid does not even have a popular name! And I purposefully did not want to giver her one because I have a popular name and didn't like it. So I get where these people are coming from, I just think they are being rude and unnecessarily judgmental about it. It is rude to say you "roll your eyes" at someone's name choice, that you feel sorry for kids with certain names, or that someone named their kid unthinkingly. Those are mean things to say about someone's baby name that they almost certainly put a ton of effort and thinking into and is now associated with one of the people they love more than anyone else on the planet. Of course people are going to be defensive about it.

It's like talking sh!t about any super personal decision. If this was a thread about careers, and there were people in here saying they roll their eyes at people who become massage therapists, and feel sorry for their families, then if there were any massage therapists in here, they would definitely defend themselves because that's an oddly personal attack on someone else's life choice. And I'd again be on the side of the massage therapists there even though I'm not one because it is just really obnoxious to attack people in that way.

You are right that it will always be this way, but that's not because anyone is unthinkingly giving their kids "overused" names (I would argue there are no overused names now and haven't been for many years because even the most popular names are simply not that popular). It's because people are judgmental and rude and like feeling superior and then lording it over other people. Basically, the "GIVE YOUR CHILD AN UNDERUSED NAME OR I REVOKE YOUR PARENTAL RIGHTS" people are being aholes and creating a lot of drama.

I think Charlotte is a pretty name. Too popular for my taste but I wouldn't judge someone else for using it -- there will never be perfectly even distribution of names, so there will always be more popular names. It's fine. At least the more popular names do tend to be pretty and versatile.[/quote]

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