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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with the suggestion to discuss a future visit to your MIL when Covid gets better.  It was probably worth the risk to take your unvaxxed toddlers to Wyoming when FIL was still alive, but he has passed now.  Funerals are for the living, and toddlers shouldn’t have to support anyone with their presence.  DH is surely grieving but his #1 priority should still be his kids and if they just spent 2 weeks in WY, they are likely exhausted and off schedule.  I wouldn’t drag them back there so soon, during a pandemic, but I would take them in a few months when everything calms down.  I am sure your MIL would love to see all of you at that point.  She will need the support.  And you should do everything else you can do to support DH:  listen to him, give him space to think while you pick up extra work at home and with the kids, discuss grief counseling with him, etc.  Good luck and be gentle, these things are so hard.[/quote]

He straight out asked her for what he needed! Y’all are something else.[/quote]

And I’m saying that what he asked for might not be the best thing for his very young children who just spent 2 weeks in Wyoming.  His first priority should be his kids regardless of what else is going on.  [/quote]

So it was fine to risk his toddlers health for COVID   2 weeks ago, not prioritize their health then, but now it's too much. Interesting.[/quote]

If you go back and read my comments you’ll see Covid was only half of it.  That’s a lot of travel and time away from home for a couple of toddlers.  Everyone is different but in my household  the  adults are expected to manage their emotions and do what’s best for their kids.  And that’s what we would think is best.  I understand that other posters have different opinions, I’m just sharing mine.[/quote]

I read your response, and the kindest thing I can say about it is it's incredible shortsighted. You want t talk routines? You know what is incredibly disruptive to toddlers and kids? Parents who don't prioritize each other. Parents who scream kids first at all costs. Divorce is also really disruptive. And if you think it can't land there you are naive. These little wounds add up and your spouse not giving a crap about your parent dying and I call your spouse being more concerned with Naptime and routines when you just lost mom or dad and you have asked them to come to the funeral not giving a crap.  That's a really big mark and if op doesn't go it will come back to bite her maybe not immediately but it will. It's the kind of thing that when the kids are older and you decide you want to not just be a mommy martyr that gets brought up and wives like you and op like to act shocked about. Didn't know he had so much anger or whatever BS you tell yourself.[/quote]

If you’re the same poster that keep to replying to me you keep inferring a lot of things that aren’t in my post and you’re getting very personal and emotional.  OP and her DH will work it out.  She already wrote several pages back that she’s looking for sitters for the service (despite DH apparently saying his 3yo twins need to go to everything.  She’s trying to work it out-  I hope that’s not fodder for an affair.   [/quote]

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