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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it’s similar to donating organs. People usually donate to family members/friends, or perhaps to a stranger out of the goodness of their heart. But you can’t sell your organs. I have the bodily autonomy to decide what I do with my extra kidney, and I can donate it if I want, but accepting money then sets up a dynamic where the poor are exploited by the rich.

See PP above who paid a poor woman with little access to jobs or childcare. How many women would be a surrogate if we had a society where women earned a fair wage and they had the work/life balance to care for their children? Would that same woman have been a surrogate if she could get a good job and hire a nanny? My guess is probably not.

FWIW I love being pregnant and am open to being a surrogate for family/very close friends. One family member did ask me, and like OP, it was because she didn’t want the damage of pregnancy and childbirth on her body. I was not okay with that and it made me feel like she saw my body as expendable and already damaged. And I know I’ll get flamed for this, but honestly, I don’t think either women or men who are that precious about their bodies make good parents. There’s so much more to life than having flat abs or flawless skin, and kids shouldn’t be raised in a house where people obsess over their bodies. [/quote]

I think this is a very reasonable perspective.  I posted earlier that I might be willing to be a surrogate for a a friend who didn’t want to damage their body but I think that’s the key — those of us open to surrogacy have the choice to decide based on the request.[/quote]

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