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[quote=Anonymous][b]OP here, this is sort of right.  I'll correct and answer questions in bold[/b]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I and our kids (tween and teen) live with his parents.  We moved in for pandemic related reasons, and then stayed, in part because DH has developed a serious illness, which has caused permanent disability.  We are still adjusting to that.

DH's sibling used to live far away and came home with her kids every year for Christmas, staying with my in laws.  Of course last year was different due to the pandemic.  This year they moved back to the state, and live close by.  They have more kids than we do, and their kids are younger, including a young baby.

Last week I sat down with all of DH's parents and siblings and we made a plan for Christmas (DH is really not in a place to do this, due to illness).  We agreed that we'd each do Christmas morning at our own house, and then meet at another sibling's house in the afternoon to exchange gifts, play games and have a feast.  I like this plan.  DH's stamina is a huge issue, and he gets overwhelmed by kid chaos.  So, allowing him to focus on our kids in the morning makes sense to me. ..

compromise.  [/quote]

The facts are way beyond the thread title that could have been 1 sib living in the parents house:
-GPs own a 3 plus bedroom house.

[b]Yes, they own a 4 bedroom home.  We have 2 bedrooms, GPs have one and there is a guest room.  The sofa in the living room is also a pull out.  SIL wants the bedroom for her, her DH and her baby, and to kick my kids out of their room for her kids.  Or to have them all share.   [/b]

-OP+DH have a tween and a teen. Do they have friends over at the GP house where they now live?  Their house is local to GP yet they moved in with the GP so 2-3 bedrooms at the GP are no longer available for guest family.

[b] We moved a few blocks.  So, their friends are all in the area, their schools are the same.  We aren't doing any indoor socialization, other than with family, because of MIL's health.[/b]

Why move in? Unknown.

[b] Before the pandemic, MIL was my afterschool childcare provider.  We paid her, and she either came to us, or we went to them.  She became more physically frail as my kids were outgrowing the need for childcare, and it sort of transitioned to more of a mutual benefit.  When the pandemic came, and they weren't seeing each other any more my kids really missed MIL, and she was very lonely because FIL was trying to run his business from home.  So, they asked us if we'd merge households.  It worked out really well, because there was company and supervision for everyone.  I could make sure everyone was fed, and the house was clean, which was hard for them to manage.  We were trying to decide whether to stay or move back home last summer when DH became ill.  At that point, it seemed like stability for the kids was the right choice.  [/b]

-1 sib with a DW + 2 young children + now a baby used to stay over at GP house prior to moving locally. OP despite having a local residence also slept over there at Christmas.

[b] The sibling is a sister, I thought I gave it away when I said she was nursing and didn't want to leave the baby to visit in the hospital.  They'd come for a short visit, and my kids would want to spend as much time as possible with the cousins, so we'd have a bunch of sleepovers.  The one on Christmas Eve was always at Grandma's.  Now they're here and the kids (they have 4 total, 3 + baby) see each other a couple times a week.  We had a bunch of sleepovers in the summer, and a couple since then.  So, squeezing in cousin time at Christmas seems less urgent to me.  [/b]

-Unknown how many other sibs of the DH with spouses and adult children will be at any 2021 gathering or where they live.  All the DH sibs are likely wondering about the living situation of their parents.

[b]DH is one of 4.  One is married with adult kids.  One is married with no kids yet.  When we gather at the house of the oldest sibling, there will also be a few other elderly relatives.  None of those people would be coming to our house either way.  They've always just come for the presents/dinner part of the day.[/b]

On avoiding breakthrough infections it's easier to control exposure of younger kids than tweens or teens or young adults.

[b]In theory this sounds right.  In reality, we're more covid cautious than SIL.  If we weren't here, then my in laws would probably need to hire someone to come in, so there would be risk either way.  My in laws would rather take the risk of seeing their grandchildren. [/b]

If I were the GP and all residences were local I'd have an early lite Christmas Eve dinner at my own house then go to the other house and sleep over to have early AM with the young children and breakfast.  Whole thing could be over and them back at their house before the tween and teen even roll out of bed.

[b]I think that sounds like a great idea, but my SIL does not want to host her parents at her home.  She also doesn't want to do cousin sleepovers at her house as someone else suggested. [/b][/quote][/quote]

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