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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m uncomfortable with setting the expectation for my male kids that house cleaning is done by someone who is female and has more melanin and probably doesn’t speak English as a first language. We do it ourselves, which means it might be a while between cleaning if friends aren’t coming over. No, I’m not embarrassed.[/quote]

Same here (although I’m uncomfortable with this for both female and male kids). I clean all the time, but it would probably still look a mess to someone who just dropped in. Don’t care. I think people should be responsible for their own messes.[/quote]

Are you also uncomfortable with all the home maintenance being done[b] by men?[/b] New roof, flooring, painting, plumbing, landscaping, etc. Just curious.... the door of equal opportunity swings both ways [/quote]

I laugh at this.  My spouse never does any of this maintenance!  [/quote]

I’m the “Same here…” PP (a female) and I’ve done all the interior painting in our house and a few plumbing jobs. Love that kind of stuff. [/quote]

DP but I'm the same! I refuse to hire a woman of color to clean our house so my kids come to view that as the normal way of things. My DH does laundry and cooks, I paint and do minor electrical/plumbing/car related things. I still probably do most of the cleaning because DH is not as good at it as I am but in order to combat what this communicates, he's in charge of keeping their rooms clean (with their help but they are very little so they can't yet vacuum or do laundry and stuff). So they regularly see him cleaning and also he winds up showing them how to clean things a lot.

We have two girls and no boys but I think I'd feel even more strongly about it with boys. I like that my girls see me cleaning and doing lots of things -- they know I'm competent and get stuff done and that's a great model for them. With boys I'd worry a lot about them viewing household tasks as something women do. If we'd had boys I think I'd make sure DH was doing even more around the house.[/quote]

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