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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your wife sounds unhappy OP. Your daughter feels the need to protect your wife from you. What if you focused on fixing those problems and not fixing the weed problem, and then see  if the problem goes away as a symptom of unhappiness in, what sounds like, an unhappy home. [/quote]

Not OP, but -- telling him to fix himself, even though there seem to be attitudes he definitely does need to fix, isn't going to magically make someone who's now addicted just stop being addicted. Yeah, she's self-medicating, but she also is now used to being high all day long day in and day out. The craving for the high isn't going to be reduced if OP becomes a nicer guy. While reducing stress could reduce the need to self-medicate, she'd also have to be self-aware enough to see a difference in him. Someone who stays high isn't exactly aware of what's going on, no matter how much he protests here that she's perfectly capable with her work, etc.

OP needs to stop complaining here, stop being so wimpily resigned to things at home, and stop bringing up how he feels superior to her. And he needs to get a third party professional involved. His wife needs to be treated like the addict she is but...she'll say it's "only" weed and not addictive.

The sad thing is there's a kid involved, a teen who sees and understands all this mess that's going on. If they didn't have a kid I'd tell OP to divorce DW for BOTH their sakes but that will leave the teen half the time with an addicted pothead mom and half the time with a dad focused on how much better a person he is than mom....[/quote]

I’m the quoted poster. You might be right that the OPs wife is hopelessly addicted, I don’t know enough about it to make that call.  If so she would probably need outside help as you say. But my understanding of addiction, limited as it is, is that the person involved has to want the help.  A husband who used to smoke who now reviles you for it isn’t going to be motivating to do that work.

So what IS within the OPs control is to work on what is making a household so miserable that his wife needs to self-medicate and his daughter needs to protect her parent from him. Because there’s plenty of contempt in the post for the daughter too. Maybe OP needs to do some therapy, or maybe spend more time at home and less time on his “amazing” body, but there are things that are within his power to do.[/quote]

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