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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not specifically in this context, but I have success in looking [b]narcissistic[/b] people directly in the eye and telling them “My life is not something for you to comment on. I did not invite your commentary. I don’t want it or need it, and I find it upsetting. It makes me feel like a thing and not a real person. Please cut it out.”  I think some people have spent so much time commenting about other people that they really don’t realize that they shouldn’t do it. [/quote]

How do you define narcissistic?  Because nothing that OP described indicates that at all.

I'll admit, I am highly sensitive to people throwing around terms like "breaking boundaries" "narcissistic" and "passive aggressive" as though they are interchangeable with "some pattern or behavior that I don't like."[/quote]

EVERYTHING the OP describes is about the parents’ self-absorption. “Weird about food.” “Close the kitchen.”  Tell other people how much to eat at breakfast.  These are hallmark narcissistic behaviors where one person treats others as mere holograms in their own perfectly controlled imaginary world.

I agree this won’t work on every self-obsessed, controlling person, but it has worked for me.

What has worked even better is establishing boundaries, like getting a hotel, bringing items you want that the host may not want to be bothered with, etc. [/quote]

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