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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you think has led to this, OP? Have either of you gained weight? Do you go on dates anymore? Do you both contribute to the household? Seems you should fix the root of the problem. Sure, lots of it is that women lose interest in a partner long-term, but most are willing to make an effort if they are still being treated like they are valued and desired.[/quote] she might have gained some during COVID but it’s hard to tell. Honestly we are stressed a lot of the time having two kids and working out a equitable division of labor. It takes a lot of work. We have gone on some dates. We had one on Saturday which was very nice. I really thought it would happen that night but nothing happened. [/quote]

This sounds like the issue to me.  She’s stressed and overworked and probably still feels like she is falling behind.  She doesn’t feel beautiful or sexy.

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Sounds like they are both stressed.

OP is a guy so sex is also stress relief. It just works different for women.

I think if she were to take a month or two off and really relax and reset, then this whole thing would look a lot different. The problem is that when you run on the hamster wheel that feeling that it's never enough and you're never enough is always lurking right around the corner.[/quote]

BS that sex is a stress relief for guys and not for women.

Do you know a lot of guys that want to run home and have sex with their wives when they get a bad review at work and are threatened with getting fired?   Or are on a tight deadline working overnights for a demanding boss?   
Sex isn't a "stress relief" for anyone.  You have to engage your parasympathetic nervous system to get aroused (the old "point and shoot").  OP just isn't as stressed about family life.  He probably doesn't feel that it's *his* responsibility the way that his wife does.  But if it were something that were   
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