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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't allow it. I agree that a professional photo shoot or something like that is more appropriate. [/quote]

Same.  I would never allow a 15 year old to make this decision.  I like the photo shoot idea, jewelry or other ways to memorialize this friendship.[/quote]

But what YOU like isn’t what is meaningful for the kids. Part of adolescence is making your own choices and part of our job as parents is to allow them the freedom to do so. To appreciate that they are becoming independent people with feelings, likes, and desires that may doffer from our own. A small tattoo, while permanent isn’t in any way a life altering thing. The girls have told the OP what would be meaningful to THEM, she old enough to walk through this with her friend, she’s old enough to decide how to memorialize their relationship. Telling her that she may feel differently about this in the future will make her feel as if you don’t understand and respect her feelings. You can’t keep her from being hurt or sad but you can help her find the other side of this with her soul in tact and your relationship with her in tact. [/quote]

oh get real - I have looked back at pictures of when I was 15 and wonder why the heck my mother didn’t tell me my makeup looked awful or why she let me some outfits bc I looked really silly. 15 yr olds don’t have the best judgement bc they are 15 and not adults [/quote]

Her close friend is dying. That’s not a silly outfit or a stupid hairdo.  It’s a painful tragedy that could be a defining moment in her emotional development.  Stop acting like a 15 year old isn’t a cognizant human being who can make her own choices about important personal issues.[/quote]

Ok, but as a society, we regulate many things for 15 year old and they need parental consent in numerous instances.[/quote]

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