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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was similar to OP’s wife.  Wanted kids before marriage and changed my mind after.  Once I realized that DH would make a  terrible parent.  Eventually got talked into it, with promises of how he would do things differently, and I was right, he is not a good father.  His parenting instincts are about as wrong as they can be, and he won’t take input because he thinks he’s a great dad.  He barely has a relationship with his child, and he can’t see it, even with it spelled out for him.  We have a wonderful kid, and I have to run interference constantly to make sure that his hamfisted attempts at being a parent doesn’t impact her negatively.

I don’t know if that could be the reason OP’s wife is balking, but it absolutely is something he should think about.  How is the division of labor?  How supportive is he of her and her crazy schedule?  Has he given her any reason to believe that he won’t pull his weight, or that he likes the idea of being a father rather than actually doing the work?

That’s only to say that some introspection could be helpful, if not in this relationship, but in the next one, should OP become a father.[/quote]

Given how little OP has engaged here, I don’t think introspection is his strong suit.[/quote]

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