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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm used to talking to my son on the phone just about every day. His wife told us when she and my son were over the other day that they plan on being screen free for the entirety of their vacation the next 2 weeks because they want to spend that time being completely focused on each other as a couple.

My son's wife told us that they will let the families know when they safely land and then after that no phones. Two weeks seems like a long time not to be able to have any contact with my son. Does this seem reasonable to you? Is this my DIL's way of asserting dominance and letting me know I'm calling too much? [twitter][/quote]

It seems weird that his wife told you this rule, not him.  What’s wrong with your son that he can’t speak for himself?[/quote]

Who cares who told them? They are a married couple and if the son didn't speak up then I think it's safe to assume that he is on board.

The wife probably knows that the OP is clingy and overbearing so wanted to nip it in the bud.

Let's take a look at the big picture here of what the real concern is. It's not that the wife mentioned it it's that the MIL can't go 2 weeks without speaking to her married adult son even after they communicate that they safely landed so that he can be bonded and focused on his wife.

Also have you thought about the possibility that a lot of men can't speak up to their mothers or their families so the wife is put in the unfortunate position of doing so so that MIL doesn't bug them everyday on vacation?[/quote]

If someone who I talk to every day decides they don’t want to talk to me every day, I would expect to hear it from that person, not a third party.  If the son doesn’t want to talk to her, he can tell her, or not answer.[/quote]

It isn't personal to MIL though. It isn't that the son is just up and deciding one day not to talk to his mother everyday. I think you all are missing that it isn't personal to her and that DIL actually made it very clear in conversation to MIL that they are going screen free from everyone even her side of the family.

Your point would make sense if it was just a random day and the DIL told MIL hey Bob isn't going to talk to you everyday anymore as they would be personal to her. She made a statement that they are going screen free from everyone for 2 weeks. This isn't personal to MIL at all. We also don't know the context in which DIL said it. Maybe they were all eating dinner and they were talking about their upcoming vacation and DIL while it was on her mind decided to throw it into the conversation that they are going screen free while she remembered to mention it. But as usual on these boards MIL is deciding to run with it and make it personal to her when that isn't that case here.[/quote]

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