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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a great reminder to me why I will never seriously date while my kids are in the house. No offense but my girlfriend comes last and way, way behind my kids. I would bail out my ex in a moment so I could spend time with kids.

I can't believe this is controversial[/quote]

I am a divorced woman. I completely agree with you. I think these women are ridiculous. They should not date men with children.[/quote]

I don't have kids and I agree with both of you. Of course, his kids come first![/quote]

So basically OP should just expect to be dropped at the last minute if the ex decides she wants to work?[/quote]

There's a big difference between the ex getting called to work an emergency shift (that could offer more money, be good for her career, help people who otherwise might die, etc.) and deciding that she wants to go out on the town. The former is better for the family unit, which will always include the guy's kids and ex.

There's a reason there are so many nightmare step parent stories. It's extremely rare for a single, childless person to be good with putting a man's children ahead of herself. I don't blame OP for not wanting to do that (I refused to date men with children when I was single and childless), but I do blame her for expecting to be prioritized above taking his own kids when their mom has an emergency shift - after 2 dates!!!

I think some of the strong reactions against OP's attitude come from her me me me attitude and her cluelessness about being a parent. She's essentially competing with the guy's kids instead of supporting their relationship. If the guy's mom needed a ride to the ER, then it's unlikely that OP would be in such a tizzy. It's OP's making the guy choose between co-parenting with his ex and OP's wanting to be prioritized above his kids/ex's need to support them that makes her so unlikable.

Maybe the guy is just making up a story to get out of the date, but at this point it's irrelevant because OP really lacks the maturity to date a man with kids.[/quote]

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