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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Part of what I don't understand here - we're supposed to mock Dawn for donating a kidney then talking about it?!

The kidney donors I know talk about it both because they are proud and also to try to raise awareness and encourage others to do it. Was she supposed to donate the kidney and then... not talk about it?

I've seen so many cruel tweets and comments about this suggesting that somehow her kidney donation - a selfless thing to do - was BAD, and I am just struck by this insane up is down judgment.[/quote]

She was supposed to do it in a twitter mob approved way, right hashtags and all.  Otherwise she might make someone uncomfortable.[/quote]

It's one thing to donate a kidney and talk about it and raise awareness. It is quite another thing to add people to your FB group, then email them because they hadn't commented. And it is not ok to go to a conference and say. "No one asked about my missing kidney!"

That said, Larson is also terrible. As are her writer friends. [/quote]

Interesting. So you’ve never been part of a Caring Bridge?  I think people are uncomfortable that Dawn picked up on the fact that something odd was going on and wasn’t afraid to confront people about it. Because it wasn’t just the lack of likes or comments that bothered Dawn - it was the fact that Larsen was reading her posts and not bothering to comment. She had a gut instinct that something was up and she wasn’t wrong. Larsen was reading, not engaging and simultaneously mocking her. She could have simply removed herself from the group or hidden it so she didn’t see updates. But she didn’t do that. She read what was posted and then took it back to her friends to trash Dawn. That is sick. The fact so many are uncomfortable that someone had the audacity to (albeit awkwardly) call them out tells you a lot. [/quote]
Exactly. The fact that she was reading these posts but never commented or liked anything, then pretended like she didn’t know is so shitty[/quote]

What?  Not to harp on what's a minor point in a much larger story, but now reading FB posts and not commenting or liking is considered rude?  I read lots of things on FB and do not comment on or like them. I don't like doing that on FB, and I don't think I'm obligated to.  Maybe I'll bring it up with you later, maybe I won't.  If you voluntarily put it out on FB, you don't get to demand that people react to it in a certain way.  I would find it very creepy and self-absorbed if someone messaged me directly to ask me why I hadn't commented on their post.

And I thought you couldn't see who read your stuff on FB anyway, is that wrong?[/quote]

We aren’t talking about a general FB feed, we are talking about a private group with 30 or so members, where Dawn shared private information.

Dawn even initially offered to REMOVE Sonya from the group when she noticed Sonya was not engaging. [/quote]

Yeah, but when you're a part of a FB group, generally the way that posts show up to you is in your own "general" feed. Setting aside Sonya's group chats and mockery, it's just simply weird and needy to be like, "hi, you've never commented on the thing I put on FB, you know I did the thing, right?" [/quote]

The problem here is that you are acting like she just scrolled by. She didn’t.

1. If you fail to interact (mean stop and read - FB tracks that shit), the content stops showing up on your regular feed. So if she was truly scrolling by, then FB would stop providing that content and she would need to go the page to keep reading.

2. She didn’t scroll by, she screenshot those posts and sent them to her friends. Stop making excuses for terrible behavior and stop making people feel stupid or wrong when they are following a gut instinct and are correct.

3. AGAIN, Dawn offered to remove Sonya from the group. But apparently, as Sonya herself stated, it was all just “too good.”[/quote]

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