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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your husband is acting like a freak. Saying y’all doesn’t make you hospitable. Why doesn’t he focus on the attitude and behaviors he wants the children to develop?  If you are not southern, then when he “corrects” you it’s actually insulting you and your own origins, suggesting they are inferior to the faux south he is trying to cultivate. That’s obnoxious. And please also tell him that this fakery will cause people to reject him and your kids. [/quote]

Yep.[/quote]

Agree, it's also treating being "Southern" as some generic identity that he is cherry picking some language and behaviors he believes are "Southern". There may be a cultural concept of what being "Southern" is but as is clearly evident in this thread there's a lot of regional, class and racial/ethnic difference within what an outsider would consider "Southern". People are going to think your kids are faking an identity, or making fun of Southern people, or will just be totally boggled.

It's somewhat understandable to adopt some common phrases/behaviors from a place you live in but are not actually from- I'm a military brat and moved a ton, and my parents ended up settling in Central Virginia and then retired in North Carolina when I was older, and were in more rural areas that would be considered the "South". but even though I lived in those places I'm not Southern and wouldn't pretend I was born and raised in rural VA/NC. [/quote]

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