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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Adults do.  Similar to alcoholics.  They hide and perform all of the time - when out of the house or dating. [/quote]

Unfortuately, all the therapy that helps many with austism appear "normal" in order to get through school, college, find a partner, etc. is just masking. It becomes harder and harder to basically live a lie. After 20 years or more, they at least stop hiding it in the comfort of their homes and the fallout harms primarily the spouse. I had no idea of the kind of person my husband really was into about 4 years into the marriage and it got progessively worse. 20 years in, I am under constant verbal and emotional abuse. I woud never have married him had I know. Outside the house, he acts like a normal, functioning member of society, then at home, he stops all the acting and it's a nightmare.[/quote]

Same. Divorced after the last kid left for college, he was a terrible, defunct “parent.”  The kids know all about aspergers and have since they were 10.  
I recreated super social lives and active ECs and tons of vacations. Sometimes he tagged along but mainly worked or went to bed early or looked at his computer while we did stuff.
 I was super lonely in such a “marriage” but he got a DX and I had orally stopped trying to get him involved with life, the house, me or the kids. He was just too incapable. Most of the lashing out stopped though weekends were the worst- so many accidents, messes, lies, excuses, cluelessness. [/quote]

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