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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What was your career before you had OP, or what are the likely jobs you can get?

This is why staying home often sucks for women. They put in the hard work when the kids are little, then some of their husbands expect them to magically get a job once the kids are no longer in the little kid stage. Meanwhile their career has been derailed so they can't get as good a job as before and the husband is spoiled and still expects the mom to handle most of the details of household and child management. [/quote]

Please hard work of staying home is literally the infant years. Not 10. [/quote]

I don't know about 10, but ages 3-6 are way harder than the infant years, and made much more challenging if you have multiple kids. Babies rely on you more but their needs are easy to satisfy. Young children can do lots of things very poorly, basically. So even though they are capable of feeding themselves, getting dressed, using the bathroom, etc., in reality you are still working extremely hard to facilitate those thing. Plus their emotional needs are so intense and change so much, it is hard to keep up.

The post school hours of 3pm to 7pm in a home with a 3-6 year old are more draining than any full 8 hour work day I've ever had, including years of my life where I was a camp counselor and working in food service. The combination of physical labor and intense emotional labor is unmatched.

I am guessing (hoping?) it gets easier after this but also assume that every kid is different and that if you have 3 or more, the difference may be negligible because the impact is cumulative. And if even one of your kids has special needs or is dealing with a serious academic, social, or medical issue, that will make it harder. Some people might choose to work full time and outsource a lot of it simply because working is easier! But plenty of people choose not to because they want to be the one to help their kids through those challenges, and because they know they will need to be the primary support anyway so why not be physically present for more of the day?[/quote]

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