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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The rule of thumb for visitors in the immediate postpartum period should be that they are expected to prepare meals, do laundry, clean house, run errands, make sure new mom is eating or drinking.  If the visitors sees their roles as anything else, they should visit at another time.[/quote]

Well said!  This was [b]MY [/b]rule of thumb.  My parents (they are from Europe) did not come over until my son was about 3.5 weeks old.  Sure, they missed the immediate time with him after the birth, but my Mom thought that DH and I needed bonding together as a family after the baby was born.  I think, this was a good decision, but it would have not bothered me as much to have my family here.  DH's relatives (not parents)are from the Midwest and VERY high maintenance.  I told them that if they wanted to come over and stay at our tiny home, they would be expected to clean, cook meals, grocery-shop, do laundry, clean up after THEMSELVES etc.  There would be [b]NO [/b]sight-seeing trips to DC or the Smithsonian, NO shopping trips to Tyson's Corner or Pentagon City Mall etc.  This cured them quickly of their desire and they stayed away.  I would have LOVED LOVED to have my MIL here, but unfortunately she is no longer with us.

You have to put your foot down.[/quote]

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