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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - I hope that you are having a boy... and then please put yourself in your IL's shoes when he is having his first baby and communicates that he doesn't want you to visit for 2 weeks. Karma![/quote]

Wow are you my MIL?  You sound like a peach!  OP is not being selfish she is trying to compromise.  Why is it ok for her IL's to think that they can imede on OPs personal space at this time when she is going to be going through alot.  There is nothing wrong with not wanting a million people in your home when you are going through one of the most traumatic things your body may ever go through mentally, physically, spiritually.  Many mothers get depressed, overwhelmed, and although its supposed to be one of the most joyous times, for many it is not because its a struggle.  She is not banning her IL's but wants to make sure she is comfprtable with all these changes.  I see nothing wrong with having them stay at a hotel and then they can have occsional visits.

OP- also, I think another poster hit this topic well but I dont think your DH is educated on all the things that can happen after birth.  It sounds like he has the view that you bring the baby home and then it all is in place but he does not know about YOUR recovery.  Your body does not just bounce back physically or mentally and I think you should do some research print in out and then discuss with him so he becomes more familiar with WHY you dont want his IL's staying with you.  Even if it is because you dont like them back it up with some concrete evidence as to why you need them to stay elsewhere.

Goodluck!  The IL thing is hard...I feel your pain![/quote]

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