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[quote=Anonymous]DH and I have three kids and we only got the postpartum visits right 2 of the 3 times.  The first time there were just too many people in town at the same time.  My parents stayed with us and luckily my neighbors allowed my in-laws to stay in the apartment over their garage b/c DH would not hear of asking them to stay in a hotel (your story sounds too familiar).  I had an emergency section, DS wouldn't nurse, had jaundice, wasn't gaining weight, I ended up with PPD - it was awful.

The second time my birth was easier, our baby was healthier and I felt so much more confident.  Our parents took turns coming (I think everyone realized how much of a mess the first time around was) and it was generally fine.

With DS3 the plan was the same as with DS2 except my in-laws dictated the day they were going to arrive which then sent my mom home earlier than I would have preferred.  My in-laws arrived, invited extra family over to visit and did nothing to help feed them.  No lie I had our crying baby in a sling while making dinner for my older two, DH was grilling for the adults and my toddler was having a tantrum while MIL and FIL sat on the couch and turned the volume of the tv up so they could hear the news.  After they left my DH said to a neighbor that his parents were worthless and I could have kissed him.

We really tried to be equitable but pregnancy and childbirth IS NOT an equitable experience.  Compromise is important in marriage and parenting, but sometimes the needs of one partner trump the wishes of the other.

I can so empathize with your concerns.  You're getting close to your due date and things that seemed settled to your liking are suddenly up in the air.  You're hormonal, probably nervous/scared about delivery, nursing, healing, etc.  Your DH is probably scared too, but it would be so helpful if he followed your lead on this one.

Good luck![/quote]

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