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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The people defending the girlfriend's behavior are laughable. [b]Why couldn't the girlfriend just say the following from the very beginning on the phone "look I'm in a relationship so this won't work[/b], but you could join a larger social gathering that's happening at xyz location and I can introduce you to some friends." There is really no excuse for her to go through all of that effort to meet with him. She already has limited time as a divorced mom anyway. Are people really going on "no dates" all the time with people so the guy doesn't get angry? Give me a break. She was either interested or is a flirt who likes the attention. Trust me, people who are really in love with each other or dating seriously don't play these types of games. They simply wouldn't put themselves in a situation that would make the other person uncomfortable. She is just not the one. Be glad you figured this one out now because I'm sure there would have been other boundary testing behaviors in the future.[/quote]

OMG clearly you are not a woman. This is a situation that happens all the time.

Guy says, hey, I need some advice about xyz, would you be willing to talk to me about it? 
Woman: sure, but I'm in a relationship.
Guy: WTF is wrong with you, I'm not asking you out, why do you think you're so hot? Proceeds to badmouth woman all over the office (playground) as being so ridiculously full of herself to assume everyone is asking her out.

so maybe the guy IS asking her out, but if he's not going to be completely honest, he's setting her up where she can't be completely upfront either without being made to look like a fool.[/quote]

+1  Yeah, it seems pretty clear to me (a woman) that they guy was using "seeking advice" as a pretext to ask the woman out.  The GF seems to have been aware of this possibility, too--guys do this ALL THE TIME, so most woman know this move--and took very reasonable steps to make clear to him that she is taken and not interested in romance with him.  On the off chance that the dude really WAS looking for friends/advice and not a date, the GF's response also left room for that to play out.  [/quote]

Yes. 
Why are we overanaylzing a situation that resulted in ZERO cheating and, honesty on the GF part? 
Seriously. This is why woman can never win. 
Lets mansplain to them now HOW to handle every social interaction and not trust their own instincts and experiences. [/quote]

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