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I’m absolutely open to a compromise.  Unfortunately, most of the posts are about my inheritance or lesbians asking me what I would do if I were in a same sex marriage.  I haven’t heard of any suggestions for compromise. [/quote]

If you want to convince your husband you’d be fine with your nest egg (i.e., worst case scenario of him losing his job a week after you quit and neither of you are able to fine jobs again), run the numbers — figure out how long that nest egg would last and what sort of lifestyle you’d have.  If that’s reasonable, and you’re good with it, then run it by him.

Just so you know, I’m a cis-het-woman, also UMC — maybe with an inheritance, maybe not, with a nice little nest egg of my own and a spouse with an even nicer little nest egg and a (small) pension.   And default/primary parent to one child, and only one child, because I knew I didn’t want to work like I do with two kids.

My husband has made noises about retiring early and relying on his retirement savings and pension.   I make a very nice salary, so we could probably do this without any hit to our lifestyle, but I would feel a lot of stress about being the sole source of income, but if he really wanted to do it, it would be fine.  However, what he really wants is both of us to retire (I don’t want to for non-financial reasons, I’m not ready to stop working).  I told him to run the numbers, and then we’ll talk.  He hasn’t, so I assume he really doesn’t want it enough.

So run the numbers and provide assurances to your husband that the worst-case scenario won’t impact your lifestyle. [/quote]

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