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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound really, really entitled and obnoxious. You have no right to demand someone else's labor this way. I'm honestly kind of shocked at the greed in this post.  Also, you don't seem to have a good grasp of the reality of being a sole wage earner.

Question: what if your DH decided unilaterally that he wanted to stop working forever? How fast would you divorce him?[/quote]

This!!![/quote]

It makes me so sad that we are to a point where a woman is greedy if she wants to stay home with children.  [b]100 years ago, a woman wasn’t allowed to work. [/b] Now she’s a terrible person if she wants to stay home.  How did we get to this?  [/quote]

That is flat-out not true.  Women have worked, including outside the home, for centuries.  Women worked as maids, weavers, cooks, governesses, teachers, nannies, nurses, factory workers, shop girls, prostitutes, laundresses, seamstresses, etc.  And women labored on farms and in home businesses forever.  The idea that a woman would just stay at home and not help the home generate income, but just take care of kids, has never been the norm.

And she's not a terrible person because she wants to stay home, but because she thinks she's entitled to have another adult pay her way whether he wants to or not, and assumes bad things about her husband without even talking to him about it.  [/quote]

Why is everyone saying she wants him to pay her way?  If they’re married and already have a high NW (maybe even high enough to live off already) then why can’t she live off that?  From her post it sounds like they DON’T need more money!  If he is so GD insecure about his job security and ability to support his family then I think that alone is a good enough reason not to have any more kids.  Clearly they can’t afford it.[/quote]

Because that’s how a long of women on here treat SAHMs.  There is a level of disgust.  [/quote]

Zero disgust towards women who SAH through mutual agreement, because it’s what they’ve together  decided is best for their family. Lots of disgust towards someone who feels entitled to stay home because her “culture” (which her husband apparently doesn’t share) tells her it’s her right because she has a uterus.[/quote]

[b]So I should have to set aside my culture? [/b] Would you say the same thing if my husband wanted me to stay home and I didn’t want to?

I have a hard time believing that you truly support women who stay at home.  You must dislike a lot of women since there are many out there who think they should be able to stay home at some point because they had a child (If you dislike women you’d say “having a uterus.”)

Mutual agreement...that’s not going to happen.  I don’t think my husband is going to want me to stay home.  So I’m not.  But that’s not what I want to do.  But again, I’m not going to quit working.  [/quote]

It's not your culture.  You're an UMC WASP.  There's no expectation of SAHM in that "culture," which is why your DH, who is from the same boring stock, is not on board.  Some WASPs stay home, some work.  There's no cultural expectation, and you sound deranged insisting that you were not born to toil like the proles.[/quote]

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