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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you're obviously hurting, and I'm sorry that you are. It must have been really hard to lose your parents like that while being far away.

But as many people have pointed out, some gently and some not so much, is that it's not fair for you to blame your relatives. You could have left your DH and let the marriage disintegrate. I'm not saying that's what you SHOULD have done, but you could have. You chose not to. I think that you're really struggling with your own choices, which virtually no one on this thread said have been unreasonable.

I mean this kindly - do look into grief counseling. It might take more than just a few sessions, you've hinted that there is more to the problem than just this - your relatives' disinterest in your life, worrying about your own future. Maybe you can come up with a plan to be more independent when you're aging (your own assisted living, etc.) so that you know you'll be well taken care of. Not everyone has the luxury of having close family take care of them as they near death. Would it be ideal? Maybe. Is it realistic? No. Get tot the root of what is driving your anger/resentment, and work on how to relieve that. [/quote]

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