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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think there are reasonable points on both sides, but the one thing [b]I keep coming back to is how many adult women remember being cat called and harassed by older (i.e., adult) men as young teens. That inappropriate attention in itself is stressful and traumatizing for girls,[/b] regardless of whether they're confident with their bodies or insecure like so many teens are. I have young, but very tall and thus older looking girls and spend a lot of time now saying things like "ha, no she's not in second grade, actually she's only 5, just super tall!" and I assume that when she's 9 and looks 12, or 12 and looking 16, that inappropriate and unwanted attention is going to start, like it or not. So regardless of whether I should HAVE to worry about a bikini sexualizing my child, my gut instinct is that if a more childish bathing suit (like a one piece, rash guard, or tankini) can keep her looking closer to her actual age for longer, than let's say I require it for sun protection and hopefully stave off that nonsense for as long as possible. [/quote]

I was harassed and catcalled while fully clothed, in winter, walking down the street. Also harassed and catcalled while at the beach, fully clothed, with my family.

When I was 12/13/14, I wore a very modest one piece specifically because I didn't want male attention. Guess what? Older boys at the pool still groped me, grabbed my crotch, and stuck my hand up my swimsuit.

I was too embarrassed to call them out because my parents made it clear it was *my* responsibility to safeguard my body by not wearing revealing clothes. It didn't work.

Had they taught me that I had the right to wear whatever I wanted and not be harassed, and that it was boys' responsibility to keep their hands to themselves, and that I should immediately tell an adult or lifeguard - things would have gone differently. [/quote]

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