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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, dysfunction can be hidden in families that are not divorced too, but with divorced families you know that there was some dysfunction for sure.  I don't think kids remain unscathed by divorce. It does do a number on them. My family member is marrying a guy who comes from a divorced family. He has had many years of therapy and is a nice person.  I still give the advice to wait a few years before they have kids because it is quite possible that he will bail when he becomes a dad.

When you become a parent, you actually do everything to make your child be in a secure environment and intact homes.  When people make the decision to divorce it is not done lightly. The dysfunction is usually extreme for people to break off.  A child that has had seen parents who are addicts, abusive or adulterers  - their brain chemistry becomes altered. It can be that they become like their dysfunctional parent or they become 
opposite of their dysfunctional parent.  But, why should my child deliberately take a risk with such a person when they can just avoid them?  We don't have to make all the mistakes ourselves, sometimes we can learn from other people's mistakes too.

I see messed up children all the time in the school classroom. [b]Find a problem child and they are from broken families, find a kid who is excelling and they usually have two involved and loving parents. [/quote][/b]

This is ridiculous. You can have two involved and loving parents and be divorced. It has nothing to do with marital status. You are assuming the old unmarried single mom stereotype. It's not that way for many divorced parents...especially educated ones. Get a clue.[/quote]
Based on DCUM standards, it sounds like most educated ex-husbands are lazy, ADHD parents who are neither involved nor loving.[/quote]

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