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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I did marry a wonderful man who is super supportive and really into request partnership. He is the cook in our relationship and likes to clean. He said it “ takes away his stress” to do menial tasks. We do have tasks divided based on preference. He is also a very involved father and has really enjoyed being a dad. We are financially stable. He has always out earned by 3x my salary.

I’m not so much worried about equal partnership, as much as his perfection of me. I know that I will most likely be doing more since I’m staying at home. He has always been very proud of me with my career, and I worry that may change. Like he will stop seeing me as this strong, driven woman and more as an assistant or “ just a mom”. [/quote]

From a male perspective, one of my best friends from law school has exactly that happen to his perception of his wife when she stopped working. He said she was no longer interesting to talk to because she didn't have anything to say that didn't relate immediately to their family. And while you can talk about that a lot, it's also nice to be able to talk your spouse about other things. So yes, I think that could be a concern. [/quote]

I think this is kind of a BS response. So, if she’s working she’s talking about work projects and likely complaining about employees. What’s so great about that? If you are an interesting person, and competent in conversation it doesn’t just fall by the wayside. My DH and I had a rule to not talk about kids On a date; it can be done. I think a spouse likely projects this “boring” on a sahm spouse as a new narrative. Women who are both home and at work focus too much on kids or gossip, which is boring.

I have been working mom and sahm and talked about all kinds of things with DH. [/quote]

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