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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread went a little off the rails but I thought I’d chime in to say, no, my relationship with DH didn’t change when I started SAH. And he DID marry me because of my career ambition, at least in part.

BUT he really genuinely values the work I do at home - most notably taking care of our kids, but also other things like cooking healthy meals, signing kids up for activities, arranging play dates, etc. He knows it’s hard to take care of little kids and doesn’t take it for granted.[/quote]

This was how it was for me too. [b]I think for many people the attraction to ambition is more about “how cool that this person does what they set out to do, and they do it well” rather than “how cool that this person is succeeding in a prestigious job.” [/b][/quote]

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And having a college educated spouse who is kick ass in their career means that the same passion can be channeled when raising the children when they become a SAH. The brain does not atrophy. Most of the educated moms retain their intellectual curiosity and in fact have more time as SAH to nurture their creativity too.  It is well documented that how well a kid does in school is linked to the education level of the mom. There is a big difference between a college educated SAHM and a high school dropout SAHM.  [/quote]
Also a lot of evidence that having a mother who works out of the home is associated with girls growing up to make more money as adults. And that certain professions that require a high degree of intellectual rigor are associated with lower levels of dementia in old age (the theory being that this is related to learning new things). Homemaker is not one of them.

You should feel empowered to make whatever choice works for your family without the reliance on stats that aren’t specifically related to SAH. The world is full of people who are successful and had two working parents and that aren’t and had a sahp.  [/quote]

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