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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sometimes men perceive their ex no longer doing behind the scenes logistical work to support their parenting.  It is just as the very astute nanny described.  The mom is still parenting the kids, but she is no longer wife-ing the ex-husband.  He must stand on his own two feet as a parent, plan and execute quality time, manage all the kids' needs, and maintain a loving household on his own.  He may perceive this sudden lack of support as sabotaging his parenting, but really it's a natural consequence of divorce and his own lack of initiative and skill.[/quote]

Or dad just needs to be allowed to do it his way and allowed to do it without mom controlling everything. [/quote]

I think this comment proves PP's point. The mom isn't there. The dad picks up the kids and.....what next? Does he just take them back to his place to play video games because he doesn't have anything else planned and he has spent X number of years relying on the mom to plan things? Or does he look ahead, make a plan, pack snacks, water, and sunscreen, and go on an adventure?

Kids eventually get tired of sitting in a dark apartment with no kid-friendly food and playing games. That's not the mom's fault. [/quote]

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