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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a terrible take.  All of the HS/college couples I know who got married in their early 20s are now divorced, and it wasn't because of a sense of missing out.  They realized after marrying that they had incompatible living styles, they changed their mind on whether/when to have kids, they moved away from hometowns and one spouse couldn't adjust, one spouse came out as LGBTQ+...it can work out, sure, but again anecdotally, I don't know of any young-marrying couples *outside of the super fundamentalist religious ones* who stayed married for more than a couple of years.[/quote]

Maybe this is a problem among members of your own community. I know many people (including DH and me) who met our future spouses in and are still married 20+ years later. None of us are fundamentalists, and most of us have advanced degrees.[/quote]

[b]I think this is owed to socio-economic and cultural factors rather than one based in age.[/b] Sure people of affluent, educated family backgrounds get divorced, but at much lower rates. Lower class families have assumed as a cultural norm what was historically limited to the elites.[/quote]

New poster here: 100% agree.

The fact of the matter is that in the U.S. most people who get married in their early and mid 20s are people who are middle, working, or lower classes. Typically with an unplanned pregnancy pushing them into marriage. Or strong religious pressures to marry. LOTS of these marriages end in divorce.

They are not dual college graduates gunning for advanced degrees. The "young marriages" discussed here on DCUM reflect a skewed sample of upper class pairings and good money relative to the typical 20-somethings who marry in the U.S.[/quote]

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