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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Young moms seem to adapt to parenting better. Maybe because they're so young they don't realize what they're giving up yet and so it doesn't feel like as much of a sacrifice?

But the ones I meet almost always seem to cheerful and well adjusted. They seem very go with the flow. They're not the harried, stressed out moms I know in their thirties or forties.

I wonder what it is. Less need for sleep?[/quote]

Not the ones I've met. They're usually stressed for money, their jobs aren't as flexible and kids spend more time in daycare. I even think less patient.

[b]Then again, the moms I know who had kids in their 30s aren't harried or stressed out. We have good spouses and strong savings.[/b][/quote]

is the bolded a joke?

The pandemic proved that was a lie! LOL[/quote]

I had kids when I was 26 and 29 (they’re 9 and 12 now) and reading DCUM makes me feel like I have the only good husband in the DMV. [/quote]

+1, had my first at 27.[/quote]

This is interesting. I also had my first at 27 and have a very strong marriage. I've long thought it's because we were still young enough to be flexible/willing to change as we dealt with the changes that parenthood brings. I know so many 30 somethings who are still single and sooo inflexible in looking for a mate, that I really wonder how they will ever be able to adjust to parenthood, being a spouse, making sacrifices for others, etc. [/quote]

I wonder that too. I also wonder if some men who marry and have kids when they are younger are better husbands and dads not because they are better people, but because they got married and had kids because they really wanted to and not because they felt pressure because of their (or their partner’s) age. I am sure most men who get married and have kids do so because they really want to, but there is a lot less pressure to do so when you’re younger.  [/quote]

Why must we always think that we are somehow better than people who make different choices or have different circumstances?

I just happened to meet my husband later than you (I was 30 when we married) and although we both wanted children, it took a while (had my first at 36). It's not like I really had much of a choice in the matter. Here I am at 44 with a 4 year old and a 7 year old and an amazing husband and strong marriage. Sorry to disprove your theory!  [/quote]

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