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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All of my friends who own in this market had parents give them a down payment, mostly around 100k. It took my husband and I 10 years to save that much and pay off our student loans while throwing away money in rent. Now we are finally in a position to buy and we cant because we aren’t competitive in this crazy market. Meanwhile our friends have turned their first condo/house into their second house and made significant profits while we have eeked by in the same apartment, diligently saving like fools.[b] I don’t [/b][b]begrudge[/b] them their privilege, but [b]it enrages me when they aren’t empathetic[/b] to our situation or [b]act like they are better than we are [/b]because they are homeowners or [b]had the good fortune to be born to parents[/b] who gave them a massive leg up over the rest of us. [/quote]

Why should your friends give you empathy when their situation and your situation  is completely different?  You are the product of your parents DNA. No good or bad fortune involved here. You could not have been born to the rich parents of your friends because then you would have been their sibling and equally well off. Sheesh.

Try and live frugally and save up so that you can at least give the leg up to your children.  Are you doing that? Or are you like your parents?

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I am kind to my friends. That’s what I expect. If I have privilege, I acknowledge my privilege. So for instance, I haven’t experienced infertility and was fortunate to naturally conceive my own kids. But I have friends who have infertility and have really struggled. So as good friend, I can acknowledge my good fortune to them and empathize with their struggles. I can acknowledge that I don’t know what their experience is like and I can say that I am so sorry they have to experience what they are experiencing, and I can admire the character strengths they have to endure countless rounds of IVF, etc. It’s the same thing with a house. They can’t relate to my struggle to buy a house, but they can empathize and acknowledge their good fortune to be handed something they did nothing to earn. [/quote]

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