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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As I've said before, there is no better place I've found on the internet to convince me to never get married again. I'll never have a GF [b]that gets away with denying me sex, no matter her perceived good reasons.[/b] [/quote]

You think you are entitled to sex. That is very rapey.[/quote]

I think I'm entitled to enjoy a fulfilling relationship with a woman that includes sex.  If sex isn't at least nearly important to her as it is to me, that will be a problem and she is free to find another man who is a better match.  There is nothing rapey about wanting, or even [b]expecting frequent sex [/b]in a relationship.  [b]There is force involved.[/b] [/quote]

Nice Fruedian typo.
Listen. You aren't entitled to any flipping thing to do with women. You aren't entitled to a relationship just for being alive. You aren't entitled to sex and you shouldn't expect sex.[/quote]

And FYI coersing someone into sex is assault. It doesn't have to involve force https://www.healthline.com/health/sexual-coercion[/quote]

When did I say anything about coercing a woman into sex?  This has gone from rape, to slavery, to coercion and all I mentioned was my desire to have a partner who enjoys sex as much as I do.  Specifically, a GF, not a wife. If that looks rapey to you, or like coercion, then something is wrong with you, not me.[/quote]

You didn't say you wanted to find a partner who enjoys sex. You used the words "entitled to: and "expect" in regards to sex. Those words are disturbing and imply that you have rights over another person's body. You didn't say "I'm very sex-postitve and put a lot of effort into pleasing my partner so I hope we will have a good sexual relationship."
[/quote]You're right, I didn't say that because I don't speak like that.  I didn't think I had to break it down for you but clearly, you have trouble understanding the simplest things.  I certainly expect to have sex in a relationship and any woman I'm with will expect the same or we wouldn't get together in the first place.  If words like, expect, in regards to sex are triggering for you, that's on you.  I don't do millennial-speak or whatever generation you're from.  My enjoyment of sex, where I expect my partner to enjoy it even more most of the time (because women have that super-power that men don't) is not: rape, slavery, coercion, or assault and for you to say otherwise exposes you as a nut case.  Throw in, gas-lighting , abuse and PTSD and you've covered most of the key words usually thrown around this forum.  I'm sure you can work those in if you try.

My point-and let me put this in terms I hope a child can understand-is this forum does a great job to convince single men like me to never get married again.  If my GF ever decides she no longer wants sex, I'm not going to face the same dilemmas so many men, and some women, express here: Do I divorce and tear apart my family and harm my kids just to peruse sex?  Do I cheat while keeping the marriage together?  Do I suck it up and just accept that my sex life is also over with?  I've been there.  Never again.  A relationship with me includes sex and I'll give more than I get to please a woman.  If she doesn't want it, the relationship will end on much easier terms than if we were married.  Is that so hard to understand?[/quote]

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