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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. It’s funny to me how many people think I’m currently in some conflict with my friend group. I’m not. I’ve had issues with people in the past which I handled by being honest about it and zero regrets— it was an effective way to either address a difference with a friend or to purge a friend from my life who wasn’t a good fit. I’ve just never seen the point in beating around the bush.

Also weird how many people think stating a personal opinion is gossip. That’s not gossip. Gossip is when you discuss someone else’s life behind their back as a form of entertainment or out of boredom. It’s gross. I hate gossip precisely because it’s catty and passive aggressive. Again, my preference is to clearly discuss any issues in a direct and productive way,

Also, I’m pretty tactful. I think that might help with this approach? I’ve definitely encountered people who are “honest” but in mean-spirited, unpleasant ways. Even then, I prefer the truth to being polite, but I get how that can be more disruptive in a friend group (tho would argue the problem is not the directness, but the meanness, which I consider different factors). Perhaps I have been fortunate to have friends who both have good manners and feel comfortable telling and hearing the truth.[/quote]

It sounds like you are just looking for people to agree with your first option mentioned.  You do you, but posting here is inviting feedback which you’re getting.

Not everyone gets along. I believe in keeping it civil because I don’t have an interest expending emotional energy into negativity.  Don’t make drama where there isn’t a need for it.  And don’t put your other friends in an uncomfortable situation.

Or carry on as you want, no need to post here though in that case[/quote]

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