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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, it was not done in an ideal manner and ideally OP should have told her sister differently. The script was a good one. But geeez- she is literally speaking about sexual abuse and with a family member who hasn’t believed her. So maybe not blaming the victim.

This thread may be what finally does DCUM in for me. [/quote]

Wouldn't you want op to protect the children of the family by disclosing to her sister the facts. I couldn't live with myself if a child was harmed and I had withheld information which could have protected them. Part of the cycle of abuse is silence, which facilitates the abuse to continue on unchecked. That's not victim blaming. If op had said nothing at all, that would make more sense than what she did, which was to drop vague accusations and then essentially run away.[/quote]

I’m so confused by what you’re saying. I would want to know if anyone in my child’s orbit had been sexually abusive towards a child. That’s all I would need to know. What possible difference could it make if we’re talking about rape vs. Fondling vs. Grooming vs. Exposing himself type of behaviors? Like if the sister said that stepdad had only spoken to her about sexual things when she was a child, would that make you OK with him being along with your kids vs. If he had raped her? The details don’t matter. He crossed the line with a child. I don’t need to know how far over the line he went to know he wouldn’t be around my children, and sure as heck not alone with them, EVER.[/quote]

The OP's sister knows the OP is manipulative-- why should the non-abused sister believe the "abused" sister? Especially when the story is so vague?[/quote]

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