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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]2400/month is literally less than 20% of his income. You sound heartless.[/quote]

Remember Dad pays taxes on his income, and probably provides the health care and more.  Mom gets all that money tax free.  $2400 is more than most people spend on their kids.  Is more than some people earn in a month.  Its a lot of money.  We spend a lot on our child and don't even come close to that if you average it out over a year (except maybe if you include college savings).[/quote]

-.+100  the file support we paid for one was much more than the amount we paid for two in our house ( including health insurance, share of utilities and food etc, not just direct kid costs).  All while the ex lies about where money and activities came from and never went back to work. I could go on with more... 🙄[/quote]

We had all kinds of drama.  Ex demanded we pay for her health insurance even though kid had always been on Dad's since birth but she didn't want to use it. Dad was ordered to provide insurance.  She ended up dropping her insurance and putting him on medicaid as we got a call from medicaid demanding we reimburse them (which we refused as we had insurance for him and they should have done their homework).  She'd demand he pay extra for activities and then the kids wouldn't participate.  We finally caught on and said tell us where to send the money (company or school) and we'll send it directly and tell us where we buy the uniform/shoes or what ever was needed and sizes and we'll ship it directly to the house.    But, hey, no one here wants to hear the other side.  And, the braces... we agreed to pay 1/2 per the court order after insurance directly to the orthotist and she refused to use the child support money to pay her half so kid never got them till an adult.  They should make people who get child support file yearly like they do with  guardianship or social security rep. payee to prove the money is spend on the individual receiving it.

[b]As a parent, the food costs are nominal for an extra kid.[/b]  Our housing and utility costs are the same.  Our big expenses are private lessons and sports and camps (but all of those are optional and I could pick much cheaper ways of doing it).  Even so, its not $2000+ a month even with a sleep away camp for a week.

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Bologna.  [/quote]

How is it bologna?  We bought a house before we had a child.  So, same cost as before as we needed a place to live.  We see no difference in utility bills.  And, food isn't that much and mine are older.  So, what other expense are there except activities?  Those are optional.  And, clothing but I shop clearance so usually the cost is minimal.  And, transportation?  We have the same cars and would regardless of a child.  Many inflate the cost of kids.[/quote]

It is bologna that "food costs are nominal for an extra kid" (the part I bolded.)   If you truly believe that food costs for a kid are "nominal" you must have never had custody of a kid over the age of 8 or 9.   This was a topic of discussion on a different thread on DCUM a few days ago--about how much preteens and teens eat, especially  if they are athletes.  [/quote]

NP. MAYBE kid eats an extra $400 a month.

I think $2400 a month is crazy. DH makes 150k. That's what our mortgage costs! Our kids are in daycare, so clearly the 3 of them are more than $2400, but we tightened our belts for a few years. I can't imagine if DH were sending $2400 off to a stepkid, we wouldn't be able to afford much of anything.[b] I guess it just gives dads incentive to get full custody.[/b] [/quote]
Simple - he wouldn’t be able to afford you :) [/quote]

No, what it should do is give dads the incentive to not have more children they can't afford because they aren't able to walk away from supporting the children they already helped to create.  Sorry, but those days are over.  It should also give any woman that is thinking about starting a family with a man that has children with another woman the incentive to think long and hard about whether this is the man for her.  I know it burns your britches that you can't have everything of his and he is helping to support another household but that is the LAW.  Bitching and moaning here on DCUM doesn't and won't change the fact that the child OP is complaining about is receiving 2400 a month in child support.  Its the LAW and what the courts and public policy have deemed said child is entitled to receive.  Get over it or get the hell out.  [/quote]

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