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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I lost my mother last year after she battled cancer for several years, and this year my father decided to remarry. We are all happy for him. My mother's family has also given their blessings. My husband made a comment initially about "rebound" and told me to tell my dad to take it slow. I took his concerns seriously and talked to my dad. My dad felt that he had made a well thought out decision in the right frame of mind and felt good about moving forward. I told him I supported him.

When I mentioned this conversation with my husband, to my surprise, he didn't seem to agree with me. He said, parents are like kids sometimes, you just have to tell them what to do. This is not the relationship I have with my father.

A few days ago I told my husband the date for the wedding (we will watch on zoom). He asked me if I had talked to my father about his will. Would his new wife be the beneficiary? What about her kids from a previous marriage? My response to my husband was that if there is a change to my dad's will he would let me know but I am not going to ask.

Now I feel my husband has been playing a game all along. This is very hurtful and petty. To add to it all, the other day my husband asked me with a smirk how old my new step mother is and whether she is that much older than us. (she is 58, my dad is 68). I just said, "I don't know, I have not asked."

My father spent years caring for my ailing mother. Waking up nights with her, taking her to the hospital for her treatments. He deserves this and so much more. It is shocking to see my husband behave like this.

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Are people reading the entire post??? Your mom died just last year and he's already getting married?!  Yes this is a bad warning sign, and your husband seems to be the only one to understand what it all entails. Honestly he should have waited a year to start dating, something isn't adding up here OP.
Has anyone checked out this woman's background? I'm sure she's fine, but there's a lot of elder abuse with older men that rush into marriages with younger woman. Whose idea was it to get married this fast?[/quote]

OP's husband is probably leery, because he knows how the male mind works. According to OP, dad spent years taking care of his dear ill wife. That is 100% commendable. Now, he's rushing into marriage, because he wants to have some fun in his looming golden years with a younger woman who will be able to take care of him. Fine, whatever. He's being completely foolish about marrying her though.

OP, is your future stepmom retired? I'm close to her age, and at 58, I wouldn't think so. He's going to tell her to retire early, because he wants her around, and he'll tell her not to worry about the money. He'll take care of things. A 58 year old woman knows how these things work. I doubt this family friend jumped into the relationship, because your dad is a nice guy. [/quote]

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