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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Gifts between couples are different[/b]. They just are. I agree that  up to a certain cash amount you should just suck it up and be grateful your spouse was thinking about you. So, smile say thank you for the ugly sweater or roses you’re indifferent about. But this is not a $50 gift or even a $500 gift — I think that would be my limit for showing appreciation for something unwanted.

This is a $5,000 “gift”!!!!!

This means that this gift is actively taking away from things she wants AND needs!!! At this amount it’s redirecting family HHI away from things you need to fulfill the man’s emotional needs. I would not be okay with that. [/quote]

This is why my wife asked that I stop getting gifts and it didn't hurt my feelings. Any small stuff she wants, she's going to buy for herself immediately. The bigger stuff is going to require some discussion making it unsuitable as a gift. And gifts really aren't things she gets excited about anyway. Me randomly bringing her home some Peanut M&Ms makes her happy and it's not going to get much better with any gift that's more elaborate.

As for me, on the other hand, I'm not one to buy myself the little things. I'll just do without because I don't really *need* very much. But I really enjoy getting small ticket crap of various kinds: hooded sweatshirt, bottle opener, books, poster for the basement, video game? All of that is fantastic! Makes me happy.

So, she gets me gifts, and I don't get her anything except stuff like random candy.

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