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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD isn't "fast"
She has straight As doesn't drink
She did have a BF starting at age 14 however and began having sex with him at 15
She didn't end up pregnant or grades going down or doing drugs. 
She isn't dating him anymore or anyone (covid and not going anywhere).
But they aren't all linked. We have liberal views about sex and dating. 
But we don't about drugs or getting wasted or bad grades. So she stays in what we've created as her lane.[/quote]

You can call it whatever you want, but a child having sex at 15 is fast. That is not healthy age-appropriate behavior based on our societal norms. The fact you’ve decided that’s the lane you’re creating in your household doesn’t change that. Any parent that hears this info about your daughter, and the fact this is an acceptable norm in your household, wouldn’t want their kid anywhere near yours.[/quote]

Is this for real?  A 15 year old having sex with a same age peer she's been in a long term relationship with is very much the definition of age appropriate. Sure, we as parents would like them all to wait until 18, but did any of us wait that long by choice?[/quote]

Dp. Yep. My two sisters and I waited by choice. I started having sex at 19- I had opportunities to around 15. My very attractive older sister waited until 20 even though she had lots of attention around 14.  My younger sister waited until 20 too even though she had "boyfriends" around 12.

The key was our personalities and my dad's "indoctrination". We have cautious personalities. We were/are very close to our dad, and he gently but consistently indoctrinated us with "wait for as long as possible-sex is high risk/low reward."

My mother and her siblings are split in two groups. Those who had sex early have a completely different personalities than the others.  They "enjoy life" more(thier words). They are more carefree, trusting and  usually downplay any potentially negative outcomes(even in business dealings).

I have a good friend who was sexually active at 14. She did not necessarily get more opportunities than I did when we were younger. She is just not as risk averse as I am.

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