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No. That you think she should while bereaved figure out by herself that you are offering her a deal below any market value for au pairs in the US today. And that you are ambivalent about what au pairs are are are not expected to do. If I trick a teenager into working duties they are no meant to for a wage well below ever other teenager in that position, is that not exploitative of me? You seem to be suggesting no, since she wants to and could google and find out that she probably shouldn’t. Read DC consumer protection act or Karl Racine tweets; may not apply here but will be very instructive as a compass since I can’t imagine you are more ethical in your other business dealings

[/quote]What are you talking about?  I'm not the OP.  We never ask our au pairs to do anything outside the approved duties, we pay above market and we work hard to make sure our au pairs have a fabulous experience.  They each have called their au pair year the best year of their life and have generally opted to stay for a second year with our family.

A million posts ago I responded to a point that its abusive to have au pairs during the pandemic at all.  I merely disagreed.  The pandemic is terrible everywhere.  Let the au pairs decide whether they still want to be an au pair.  Many, many went home at the beginning of the pandemic.  Some stayed.  And some still want to come anyways.[/quote]

Great. I hope you speak up when you see host mothers behave like the OP and the chorus were suggesting then. I think this could be a wonderful
program during the pandemic where many of these young people can provide DL assistance and enrich home life. But sadly, there have been so many stories of abuse and just general ambivalence and garden variety exploitation. These are in fact wrong and even illegal actions, and we should all help stop them by calling out our fellow host moms and educating au pairs how to only end up with great families that are willing to abide by the program and the market.[/quote] The fact that the au pair is asking for a raise means that the system is working.  When OP says no, the au pair will go into rematch and find a better family.  As has been stated on this thread many times, the rematch market is insane right now.  She'll have options.

Even prior to the pandemic, in the DMV, all of the au pairs I've met had a strong understanding of the market.  I have never personally met or even heard through any of my au pairs about someone in an abusive situation.  These stories come up in the news, but I've known dozens of mostly happy au pairs.  Some are occasionally home sick. Some eventually decide they dont really like childcare.  Etc.  But nothing abusive.[/quote]

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