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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like I would always be tempted to bring it up in a fight.

Him:  “You were supposed do the dishes last night and you didn’t.”  
Me:  “Well, you were supposed to remain faithful in our marriage, and you didn’t.”[/quote]

Or this:

Him:  “It’s your turn to do the dishes tonight.”
Me:  “Remember that night that I made your favorite dinner, but you didn’t come home to eat it because you said you were working late, but you were really screwing some other woman?  I think I did the dishes that night.  I also think I put the kids to bed that night too.  So, I’m pretty sure that makes it your turn.”

I don’t know.  Even if he really felt awful about it and worked hard to change, I’m not sure I could be a mature enough person to move past it.  [/quote]
Haha! I think about this a lot. I compartmentalize very naturally and I think I would be fine mentally if my DH cheated. But I would literally never be able to take his feelings seriously anymore. It would end in divorce either way, because after you’ve stuck your d*** inside another woman then...I mean what can you criticize me about? I guess I would check out and that would end the marriage anyway.[/quote]

That’s where I am.  It’s literally a moment of I can literally do (or not do anything I want) because you repeatedly stuck your d@ck in some whore.

I haven’t cooked a meal, cleaned, gone grocery shopping, scheduled things for kids/house in 6 months.  For 22 years I did 90% of that and worked full time.  He’s doing it all now.  It’s freeing.  I just don’t give a f@ck anymore.  He is highly repentant and kisses my @ss.

I think you literally now have the upper hand the rest of the marriage ..because really what can I do that’s worse?  I now spend whatever the f@ck I want too.[/quote]

But you don’t sound free or happy, You sound broken & bitter. I feel very badly for any children living in that household.[/quote]

Right.  That wasn’t the OP, that was another poster married for 22 years who said that she was severely traumatized, took time off work, and is having nightmares.  Keep up.  [/quote]

That post was to the person quoted, NOT OP. Keep up.[/quote]

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