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Young children don’t have any “inner motivations“ separate from their id, in fact pleasing their parents by obeying the rules is how they develop a strong superego and eventually successfully integrate their emotions. You are free to allow your children to be ruled by their emotions until they develop their own motivations (altruistic love? following rules because it feels good? Young children lack the cognitive ability for perspective-taking, so I’m not even sure what inner motivations they might have to follow rules apart from the societal expectation that they should.). My children are happy and well-adjusted, in large part because they have done the hard work of independently dealing with overwhelming emotions.[/quote]

DP, but anyone sincerely talking about the id and the superego has no clue about child development, and I say that as a psychodynamically-trained psychotherapist.

If you want to know how to help kids learn emotion regulation, read The Whole Brain Child.  Attachment and neuroscience!  It’s good stuff.  Anything by Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson is gold, but that one’s the classic.[/quote]

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