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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It shows kids that someone who loves them and cares for them can hit them. That's not something I want to teach my kids.[/quote]

This is my most important concern with it. It's not a healthy relationship, even between a parent and child. What would be your reaction to stranger coming up and slapping your child? You'd want to beat the hell out of them. So why would you do it to your own child? This is not what people who love each other do to each other.[/quote]

Or not even a stranger - what do you do when your daughter, who was spanked by her father, is hit by her abusive boyfriend, who then explains that he really loves her, but he had to hit her because of the way she was acting? How on earth do you reconcile that?[/quote]

You explain it by saying she and her boyfriend are equals, and equals don't hit because neither is responsible for the other one.  Parent and child are not equal, parent is responsible for the wellbeing and guidance of the child, who is unable to do that him or herself. [/quote]

What a dumb point of view. We all are responsible for loved ones in our life, and for their wellbeing! You think that spouses are not responsible for each other or should not take actions to ensure the other's wellbeing?

"I'm responsible for my child's wellbeing" *hits child repeatedly*[/quote]

Let me explain it to you in simple terms.  If my husband and I are walking down the street and he rushes into the oncoming traffic and gets hit by a car and dies, not one person will blame me. He is an adult responsible for the consequences of his choices. If my kids does, everyone will.  So, no, we are not ALL responsible for our loved ones' wellbeing.  We are only responsible for ourselves and for our kids who cannot be responsible for themselves.[/quote]

Yes so it’s your job to use your (supposedly) more developed brain and find ways to motivate them to want to follow rules. Hold your kid by their hand until they are ready to show they can be trusted. If they break the rule once they get to go back to not being able to walk freely. It’s your job to guide them, use your brain. You think spanking will work? They will only do worse things when you’re not with them just to defy you. How is that safer?[/quote]

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