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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just curious - when people share horror stories of what type of men NOT to marry, when did you start seeing these issues? I am 37 and all but one of our friends has gotten divorced. Most of my friends seem to be in happy marriages. Is it coming later?[/quote]

^correction. I meant to say all but one of our friends has stayed married. 2, now that I think of it.[/quote]

Yes, the unhappiness starts in the middle school years, usually as the kids get more independent and the years of resentment from early childhood build up.  Basically, if you were able to maintain a solid romantic and sexual relationship when the kids were young, you will probably be fine, if you neglected each other, it will come roaring back in affairs, resentment, etc[/quote]

If there is a personality disorder or sexual addiction, even maintaining sex and romance— a marriage falling apart still is very possible.  Read about “compartmentalization”.  Read about how married dating sites, social media and the rise of sexual variety becoming acceptable is leading to more marriages ending.

There is also LIFE.  People will get sick.  Parents will get terminal illnesses. Spouses might get cancer. Children die (ended 2 marriages of those we know), people may lose work, etc.  Life if anything is highly unpredictable and so is the way some people will act completely out of character when faced with challenges, hardships and adversity.

Middle school/HS years are when a lot of this all collides.

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